There are forces that run my world & push/pull on my awareness. Am I in control of anything? I like to think that I am…
You see, I’m always moving, whether by role-playing inside my head or in actual movements thru my limbs. And, just as a car has an accelerator, clutch, gearbox and steering column, I too have components and systems working together with the aim of getting me from point A to point B.
Unfortunately, in my case, neither front or rear-wheel drive mattered. Moving forward, in general, became complicated once I hit a certain age.
So I asked life…
Why the extra challenge? Why out of the trillions and trillions of star systems, did I end up here with backward cogs?
Or the bigger question…
Who the hell dumped me, a left-handed, Highly Sensitive Mind, in the middle of a right-handed infestation? 😤
The Complex Drive
My attention isn’t the easiest thing to keep under control, as I’m sure most will appreciate considering the world we live in today. With a variety of forces pulling here, there and everywhere -/+/-/+, I try my best to bring my awareness back and hold onto it firmly. Or, at least to where I think it should STAY in order to get the job done, whatever that may be. Such discipline is essential if I’m to learn, work, focus, and interact with the world around me in any meaningful way.
Unfortunately, it’s the same old story and my attention doesn’t always cooperate for long. One moment it’s doing what I ask, then, in the next few moments, there it goes again… OFF, wandering into another forest of thinking as I’m no longer concerned about the track I had planned.
The thing is, I’m no longer satisfied with stumbling around as I had for nearly my entire life. Instead, I want to give nature or MY nature the helm so it can drive my reality efficiently and be more in control of where my life goes and how it unfolds. I don’t need easily influenced fragments of myself that are unsure or make bad decisions, such as floating off into various distractions, driving the ship anymore.
Why Are My Distractions so Powerful?
Why is the appeal quality that triggers chemicals in my brain fluctuating so rapidly between different things and aspects, like a stubborn habit that will not end or settle down? Because, whenever the lights do turn green for something far less productive but more appealling (which was all the time), either towards entertainment, social networking, or the like, then all of a sudden my original plan goes straight out the window. Now, my efforts transfer onto wasteful experiences instead as I rationalise the move with some random bogus excuse that helps justify deviating from my initial course.
Whatever thing it was that was productive, it doesn’t matter anymore. I’m now on another channel that is LIGHT-YEARS away.
But again, it doesn’t stop here…
You see, once I’ve had enough of all one, two and three distractions, off I go into something else. My attention jumps on and on, eventually looping me back to the very start of the next hopeful run at my elusive task. Which, furthermore, is usually when the guilt kicks in from having strayed in the first place from wasting so much time.
It’s the story of my life!
I want to go one way, but my mind says… “Forget that! look over here, instead.” While later, it’s followed on with… “Fool! You shouldn’t have listened to me. Now, how are we gonna fix this and get our wasted time back?”
My Driving Trio
After many tedious hours working this mess out, I’m finally on it. I discovered that the 3 big players responsible for channelling attention are ‘Desire’, ‘Willpower’ and ‘Focus’. Although they appear separate, I realised they must all be connected in some way and branch down together to the one root system. This is what I needed to uncover.
Next up is a layout describing the Complex and Simple nature of each player I’ve encountered. By clearly seeing the Complex, I have freed up space, thereby arriving at the Simple. And as a result, I’ve now knocked down or changed my most potently bad-habits to date.